The Power of Encouraging Words

 

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
-Mother Theresa


Words can be deadly weapons or protective layers of love. They can bruise and batter a person, no matter how old, in the heart and spirit just like physical blows can cause damage to the outside of the body.
Because these bruises to the spirit are not readily apparent, many think that they are forgotten easily. However, while a verbal assault may end temporarily, the emotional damage is carried in the heart and confidence of a child forever. The opposite is also true; Compliments, encouragement and praise can shape lives and futures for the better. A kind word and a pat on the back works wonders and fills the emotional bank account with confidence and a desire to keep trying.
Input- Negative or Positive Words
The four things that matter in a communication are:

• What is said
• How it is said
• Who is saying it
• Why it is said

If a parent tells a child in a sarcastic tone, “You are so clumsy, what a klutz,” the child will incorporate that information into a belief about the kind of person he is and will become. Even if the parent feels the comment is meant to help prevent accidents or provide direction, the child senses from the facial expression and demeaning tone that correcting behavior is a judgment on his character. He will repeat and reinforce those words over and over again in his mind, every time he accidentally drops a paper or trips over a rug. He will begin to define himself by the words and even tell others that he is clumsy and a klutz.

As an adult, he will become self-limiting in taking chances for fear he will screw up or drop an important part of the project. He has actually become dis “couraged” and lacks the courage to try. He is afraid to take a risk and prove his parent right. The words that were spoken to him took away his courage to proceed.

On the other hand, as an adult he has the ability to look at the words and descriptions running through his mind and decide which of them are actually appropriate and which are not true now, or never were true. Perhaps that belief system needs to be replaced or reframed.

EnCOURAGEment or Discouragement of Ourselves

How do you typically define yourself? Do you tell yourself and others that you are disorganized, financially challenged or not good enough? Why not make a list of the positive and negative ways you describe yourself. Are they accurate or just a point of view? Look over your list of words and phrases and really think about how those definitions limit your ability to accomplish all that you deserve in life.

If your list includes disorganized, then think about how to make that a positive and tell yourself, “It may appear to others that I am disorganized, but I realize that I have the ability to multi-task.”

If your list includes the example mentioned above of being clumsy, then examine it as a rational mature adult and reframe it by saying, “Yes, it was clumsy to spill the milk when I was 10 years old, but it was an accident and it is time to forgive myself for knocking the glass over and my father for yelling at me.

It is past time to move on and change my frame of reference. I am not clumsy now, if I ever was. I know how to put the milk away without spilling it. And besides, it is only milk and costs less than a dollar and is not worth the importance I have given it in my mind. I know now and accept that accidents happen to every one.”

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Give a Gift of Courage

EnCOURAGing words are like a gift of bravery, daring and valor giving you permission to take risks and to keep on trying. While it is important to give words of enCOURAGEment to others, it is vital to give them to yourself. You are the master of your belief system and it is up to you to stop along the journey of life occasionally to give yourself a pat on the back. It is time to recognize that old tapes and negative thoughts in your head are no longer serving you.

Give yourself and others the beautiful gift of enCOURAGEment. Express those kind words and “atta-boys” many times a day. Stop being so critical and expecting perfection. We are all incredible human beings with much to accomplish and enjoy in life so let’s move forward in joy.

You can do it. I believe in you.

 

God is Blessing You Right Now!

Rev. Alan A. Rowbotham

 

About the Author:

We give thanks for Judy H. Wright, the author of this article. Judy lives and loves in beautiful Montana. She is the author of over 20 books dealing with human relations from birth to death. She is a respected personal historian and popular international speaker. She is known as “Auntie Artichoke, the story telling trainer.” Please contact her for a fun filled staff or organizational training by going here or by calling 406.549.9813

 

 

 

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The Power of Praise

 

We talk a lot about actual thanks-giving, about giving thanks, but we don’t talk a lot about praise. We understand about giving thanks and we talk about building an attitude of gratitude, but there’s something about praise too that makes a difference in our lives.

In Psalms 34 it says this, “I will praise the Lord at all times. His praise shall be continually in my mouth.”

The word praise is mentioned over a hundred times in the psalms, and so praise is obviously very important. The Israelites used to praise with song and music and dancing, with instruments. You can picture them with their harps and lyres, probably tambourines and drums, and dancing and singing. They really rejoiced in their times of giving praise to God. They didn’t have a day of Thanksgiving, but certainly they sang praises to God.

Charles Fillmore, in his little book The Revealing Word, said this: “Praise is the quality of mind that eulogizes the good, one of the avenues through which spirituality expresses.”

Again, he said this; “Through an inherent law of mind action, we can increase what we praise. One can praise a weak body into strength, a fearful heart into peace and trust, shattered nerves into peace and power, a failing business into prosperity and success, want and insufficiency into supply and support.”

Why is this so? Well, praise helps us to focus on God’s good and it brings increase. When we praise the plant, the plant grows; when we praise our children, their true self begins to unfold. Anything we praise begins to increase in our lives.

When Myrtle Fillmore discovered she had tuberculosis and she heard the words of Dr. Weeks saying, “You’re a child of God and you do not inherit sickness,” she began to realize and to use that idea of praising, praising all the cells in her body. And she praised them into health. She became healthy again and lived many years after that time.

So the praising is important. Sometimes instead of praising, we put ourselves or others down, or we demean, or even curse. But if we’ll praise the good that we find, what happens? The good begins to increase. And the important thing is not only that the good increases, and when we praise other people they begin to blossom, don’t they? Everybody blossoms through praise.

That’s one thing that happens, but that’s only half the story because we get a blessing too. As we praise, we begin to see more good within ourselves and we begin to open the gateway of good within ourselves. We open the channels to receive more good as we give praise and blessings to others.

It says in the Psalms, “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works, that I know very well.”

So why do we praise God? Does God need our praise? No, God doesn’t need our praise, but we do. It doesn’t affect God, but it affects us. When we praise God, it affects us. What does it increase? Does it increase God? No, but it increases our spiritual awareness of God’s good when we praise and give thanks to God. It opens the gateways of our soul so that the imprisoned splendor of our own being can escape; and the love that we are can move into our world.

So, this Thanksgiving, remember that praising God and praising others is really key to experiencing more good in your own life.

Praise opens the gateways of our soul and love escapes into our experience. Sometimes praise has a way of making tears form when you realize you are in touch with the Spirit of God, and in this you are truly alive.

God Bless You – and I give thanks for you.

God is Blessing You, Right Now!

Rev. Alan A. Rowbotham
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Thanksgiving - How to Make it Even More Special

Thanksgiving Day is almost upon us, so I’d like to offer you a way to make this Thanksgiving season even more special, with a new and different way of celebrating our traditional Thanksgiving.

Recently a woman told me of a wonderful demonstration of prayer that she had experienced and how very, very thankful she was feeling. But she admitted that she wasn’t sure how she could truly express her thankfulness to God. She said, “It somehow doesn’t seem enough just to say ‘Thank You’ to God.”

Have you ever had a tremendously wonderful answer to prayer? Perhaps a loved one who was very ill suddenly had what the medical profession calls “an instantaneous remission,” or had an exceptionally fast recovery to complete wholeness and health?

You would feel very, very thankful to that life-giving Spirit which is the Source of all healing and that humankind calls God, wouldn’t you? So how are you going to express your thankfulness?

Would it be enough to go into a church and silently say “Thank You” to God’s invisible Presence?

Would it be enough to go out on some mountainside and shout “Thank you, God” into the air and hear it echo and re-echo back to you?

I certainly think that silently giving thanks to God in prayer is very good. I think going out on a mountainside or wooded place or seashore and shouting “Thank you, God” with a fervent feeling of gratitude is a wonderful thing to do.

But I think perhaps that this is not enough. This is consciously being grateful. This is accepting a blessing, what might indeed be a miracle, from God with gratitude. But it is not what we might call “Thanks-giving,” except the giving of your time and perhaps an overflow of your emotions.

So let me suggest to you how you can really give thanks to God in this Thanksgiving season . . . and all around the year.

Here is what you do . . .

You’re grateful to God for your many blessings . . . good! You say “Thank You” to God in a quiet time of prayer . . . good! Then, because in your heart you know God has done so much for you and through you, you arise from your prayer time and determine to be on the lookout for someone who has a need that they can’t fulfill themselves . . . then you fulfill it!

Then you are truly giving, to express your thanks. And you are giving directly to God, too.

How are you giving directly to God?

Well, as Jesus said to the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4:24), “God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.” Spirit means “breath,” or Life. God is Life in expression through every person as their individual Being.

When you give something of yourself to someone who has a need, you are giving to God expressing as that person!

This is what the Bible is pointing out when it says, “Whatsoever you do unto the least of these, you do also unto me.”

Thankful prayer is “Thanks-feeling,” and it is good. “Thanks-giving” involves an action of giving.

Often in my years of ministry, people have done things for me that fill my heart with gratitude. And in my retirement from full-time church ministry, I have been overwhelmed by the expressions of love and appreciation that have come from so many, many people.

I thank God, and I try to thank persons with a note or a letter which includes everyone. But this never seems enough. So I figure the only way I can truly express the fullness of my feeling of thankfulness is to work diligently at doing the best job possible of teaching the Truth principles that have helped others, both today and in the future.

In short, you can express gratitude or “give thanks” by giving back more of yourself to the people whose lives touch yours.

There are Many Things You Can Give

There are many things you can give to express your thanks to God.

You can give a little time and understanding to your teenage son or daughter who needs to know that you love him or her.

You can give a happy attitude around the house that will brighten up the atmosphere.

You can give a little extra service to your customers, or do a little better job at work.

You can give a word of appreciation to the fellow who fixed your car instead of a look of suspicion that he overcharged you . . . even if he did! Then you are really giving something, and it costs a little more than just a perfunctory “Thank You, God” in prayer.

Do you get the idea?

Here’s an idea that could be better than a hundred Sunday school lessons for your children: When you sit down to your Thanksgiving table, what if you said, “Kids, we sure are grateful for all our blessings. We are grateful for this food, for our health, for your Mommy, for you, and for all the good things that we enjoy and sometimes take for granted. Tell you what we’ll do, we’ll say our Grace and acknowledge that God has given us these things, and then we will take an equal amount to what the dinner cost and we will send it to ____________ (you add whatever organization your family feels is doing a real good job in helping people).”

Later in life, when they imitate their Dad and Mom, they will find that you always get back, in some way or another, more than you gave when you give out of a feeling of thankfulness. It comes back to you, increased and multiplied!

Make this the most unique and rewarding Thanksgiving of your life. Give thanks to God in prayer, yes, but then start looking for needs that people can’t fulfill by themselves, and fill the need for them . . . and don’t tell a soul that you did it!

God is Blessing You, Right Now!

Rev. Alan A. Rowbotham
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Your Flaws are Perfect!

(Here’s another thought-provoking blog post from Karl at http://www.karlblog.com/ )

How many of us beat ourselves up on a daily basis?

Blimey. I certainly do!

"Ohh, why did you say that! Now she thinks you’re a total Muppet. Idiot!"

"My nose is definitely out of line. I look terrible!"

"I just can’t quit. I constantly fall into the same patterns. I’m a real ass!"

It’s crazy, and it’s continuous!

Well, today I’d like to suggest something that most people will have never considered.

Just for the moment, can you try giving yourself praise and thanks for beating yourself up so well?

After all, you’re incredibly good at it… Right?

Of course you are!

So, congratulate yourself on doing it so well. It really is quite the accomplishment to do it to the extent you do, right?

Of course!

Now, why not try congratulating yourself on being as flawed as you are?

We’ve all got issues that we let hold us back. So, just for the moment, give yourself praise for being as wonderfully flawed as you are.

You hate all of those flaws, right? Well, just give yourself praise and approval for holding onto that feeling of hatred and resistance for so long.

You’ve been doing wonderfully so far in your life. Only a really strong person would hold on to a strong feeling like that for so long!

And now, just for the moment, could you give yourself some approval for just being as perfect and as flawed as you are?

Maybe just because it’s a very smart thing to do.

Take this exercise seriously.

Most people have never taken the time out to honestly give themselves approval for being both the perfect and flawed being they are.

By praising your negative emotions, rather than attempting to suppress them - we feel so much better, and become more in harmony with the beautiful duality that life provides.

Enjoy your day - and give yourself approval even if you don’t!

God is Blessing You, Right Now - Flaws and All!

Rev. Alan A. Rowbotham

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